Couples Counselling in Nanaimo

Remembering How to Reach for Each Other

Couples Counselling Services by Allius Services Inc. in Nanaimo

Remembering How to Reach for Each Other

Love isn’t always loud. Sometimes, it’s quiet.

It shows up in the way you sit on opposite sides of the couch, wondering how you got here. In the long pauses between conversations. In the arguments that circle the same topics but never seem to land anywhere. In the loneliness that creeps in even when you're together.

If your relationship feels distant or strained, you’re not alone. And more importantly, you’re not broken. You’re human.

Relationships are made of two whole people, each with their own stories, wounds, needs, and ways of coping. Over time, life gets busy. Hurts go unspoken. And without even realizing it, you stop reaching for each other in the ways that once felt natural.

Couples counselling is not about taking sides or assigning blame. It's about slowing down. Creating space to really see each other again. To speak honestly, to listen without defense, and to gently find your way back to the connection you both still long for.

Here, we make room for the unspoken thing, the fears, the longings, the little resentments that built up over time. We hold space for the tears, the tenderness, and the quiet hope that maybe, just maybe, it’s not too late.

We believe in repair. In small, brave moments of honesty. In the strength that grows when two people decide to keep choosing each other, even when it’s hard.

You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to show up with whatever’s real for you.

We’ll meet you there.

Our job is to help the couple to pay attention to dynamics at play and the differing beliefs held by each person, in order for each person to gain a deeper understanding of the inner world of their partner. Research tells us that this is the roadmap for how to build connection and the type of communication that supports lasting and meaningful romantic relationships.

The couple learns new ways to navigate their unique challenges by adopting more effective communication tools, conflict resolution strategies and by practicing connection activities that rebuild those foundational pillars necessary for a stronger, more loving and healthier relationship.

Modalities used:

  • Prepare/ Enrich Couples Counselling
  • Emotion-focused Couples therapy
  • Gottman Couples therapy levels 1 & 2
  • Hakomi Method for Couple


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Allius Services serves clients across Nanaimo, Parksville, Qualicum Beach, Ladysmith, Chemainus, Port Alberni, and the surrounding areas.